Father Is Concerned Because His Son Looks Nothing Like Him And Gives Him A DNA Test

I know that divorce can be hard on kids, but I experienced the other side. Living with two parents that hated each other and violently fought almost all the time is as hard maybe even harder. They thought that staying together would be good for me and my siblings. Newsflash, it wasn’t. It was traumatizing to say the least.

I don’t remember, I either read somewhere or maybe my therapist toldme that “when you fight with your spouse you shouldn’t see it as me vs you. but more like, me and you vs the particular situation or problem on hand and try to figure it out”. But its really hard to do so when you start Hating that person.

I don’t want my son to live like that because I tell one thing I just can’t stand my husband anymore. Idk if this is a weird way of saying it but I just don’t respect him anymore if that makes sense. I just see an unreliable man and I know for fact that our fights won’t be the same as before.

I would’ve said what a waste of 5years but I have a sweet and smart gremlin now and having a child really pushs you to be better and to do better so I can’t complain.

Update Sept 21, 2023

Here to update you as a lot of people were interstated.

But real quick, I have a comment about my last post. Please, if you are going through something serious, think twice before posting it. Obviously, I was expecting people to tell me I am overreacting or even that je m’invente une vie sur reddit.

But there are also people who would leave you with comments like “You’re a disgusting piece of shit. I hope he takes your child from you in the divorce and you realize what kind of monster you are.” and go about their day. Which was my cue to stop reading comments that night.