Sex Experts Say These Are The 9 Clear Signs You’re Actually Good In Bed

Two sex experts break down what really matters in the bedroom, and the nine signs are easier to tick off than you might think

If you have ever stopped to wonder how you actually stack up in the bedroom, experts say there are nine clear signs that can give you a pretty honest answer.

A group of sex and relationship professionals have shared what could easily be called the nine commandments of being good in bed, and they are things many people overlook.

If movies and porn were your main reference point, you might assume being good at sex means mastering endless positions or pulling off dramatic performances, but that picture misses the point completely.

According to experts, real sexual skill has very little to do with tricks and much more to do with connection, communication, and awareness of the person you are with.

The Metro highlighted nine reliable indicators that suggest you are doing well between the sheets, based on insights from several sex and relationship experts. So if you are curious about whether you leave partners feeling satisfied and comfortable, these signs are a good place to start.

Your partner wants to do it again

This might sound obvious, but it matters more than anything else. Annabelle Knight, a sex and relationships expert at Lovehoney, explained that being good in bed comes down to how you make someone feel, including feeling safe, wanted, heard, and included.

If your partner is excited about doing it again, that is often the clearest signal that you are doing something right.

You don’t obsess over orgasms

Sex is not meant to feel like a finish line you have to sprint toward. Sex and relationships psychotherapist Gigi Engle explained it this way: “Great lovers aren’t chasing orgasms like they’re the end-all-be-all for being good at sex.”

Instead of focusing on an end result, she says good sex is about pacing, curiosity, and staying tuned into your partner’s experience.

You’re genuinely enthusiastic

You do not need to know every move in the book to be good in bed. As Knight pointed out: “Being present, engaged, and clearly interested is often more attractive than any specific move or technique.”

Showing real interest through words, touch, or energy helps your partner feel desired and comfortable, which often matters more than technique.

Respecting boundaries builds trust – and trust means better sex

You read non-verbal cues

Not everything needs to be said out loud. Knight noted that when you are truly connected to your partner, you can notice subtle signs like tension, hesitation, relaxation, or excitement.

Picking up on those signals and responding in real time can make a big difference in how safe and enjoyable the experience feels.

Pay attention to non-verbal cues.